A BETTER WAY TO RELATE

Dear friend,

It's my utmost desire to see us enjoy and have a great relationship. Not withstanding the pandemic happening in the world today, we can choose to have a great time at home as we obey the government regulation to stay home and stay safe. At the heart of everything going on, we must decide to maintain a healthy relationship not just with the people around, family or ourselves but with God. People have had to ask me, "Is this the will of God?" "Why did he let it happen or did he cause it to happen?"

Certain questions has done nothing else but raised fear and doubt in our hearts. We don't have the answers to certain questions, but we must also know that certain questions make us see reasons to blame God or the people we relate with. I am sure that whatever the case may be, we must get up and make the day count. For some people, this season will draw them closer to God, for some it will not. It will give some more time with family, and time to work on their relationships, for some it won't. What will it be for you ? So you see my friend, our relationship is at the heart of it all.

You can't let this fear, panic, doubt and hopelessness into your home.

If there is a safe place, it should be our homes. We can fight this in families. Build a conducive environment that will keep you safe, happy, full of faith, hope and love. Right now is a wrong time for you to keep having problems at home oh. As much as possible you must willingly avoid it.

We obviously didn't cause this to happen, but we are they cause of whatever happens here after. We can either end or spread this fear, virus, and doubt.

If you must build a healthy relationship with others, then you must put an end to fear, doubt and blaming others.

Reasons We Blame Others.

1. To explain the reason why something happened.

As humans, it’s our default to always look for a cause not a cure for something. We look for the cause not because we want to find a cure but because we want to know who you blame when asked, “what's going on?”

2. It’s a great defense mechanism.

Shifting the blame directly onto someone or something or looking for whose fault it was is the perfect way to avoid having to reflect on your behavior or delve deeply into your own psyche. That way you can remain blissfully unaware of your own shortcomings, which can help to maintain a fragile ego.

3. It’s an easy way out.

Why would we bother doing all that tricky self-analysis and taking steps to fix a situation if we can just take the blame off our own shoulders by finding whose fault it is and placing it down on him, her or it...

Become a better person this season and relate in a better way... After this season is over, we will have great fathers, mothers, friends and beautiful families.

https://voeden.org/2020/04/09/a-better-way-go-relate-at-the-heart-of-it-all-our-relationship-is-at-stake/

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